We're always gathering evidence to prove that our beliefs are right. Why not gather evidence that your life works? This takes a bit of loving discipline to accomplish. You have to be more interested in feeling good than you are in feeling disappointed and upset.
You get to choose what to focus on. The other day I had a "moment". It happens. After a business meeting where we reviewed last year's profits I got really upset and discouraged. Even though we technically met our goal for the year, the numbers showed that the money came from a very small portion of the people that our business serves. This meant that the overall giving was WAY down. I decided this was bad news. Instead of appreciating the success, I got stuck in my disappointment. By the end of the day I was ready to quit my job and move to a little town where nobody knew who I was ... this is where my negative thinking takes me.
If you fall down the rabbit hole of complaining, you'll find an endless amount of things to be upset about; it's how the ego works. Irritation, sadness, discontentment are not our natural state of being. It's hard work to keep them active in your awareness. This is why feeling upset is tiring, you're literally exhausted by not feeling good.
On the flip side, when you're aligned with your loving heart you feel energized. This is because you're not constantly gathering evidence that your world is falling apart. Gathering evidence that your life works takes no effort, you simply observe the world without opinion and judgment. Without your opinions you see how perfectly everything is unfolding.
You get to choose what thoughts to think. Some will argue this concept with me but I won't budge. 2017 brought some of the hardest challenges I've ever had to walk through and even then, I decided to keep my attention on the blessings in my life, and you know what, I constantly felt blessed. Whenever I found myself following a line of thinking that made me feel like a victim, I'd pause and say out loud, "I get to choose what thoughts I think. I let this thought go! I choose to focus on the blessings that surround me." Now I know that even in our most painful moments we can choose to feel blessed.
The question remains, "What are you gathering evidence to prove?"
Jesse Brune-Horan is a Spiritual teacher and happy living expert. He's the co-founder & Spiritual director of Inspire Spiritual Community, a non-profit organization supporting the LGBTQ+ community. He's the host of the podcast "LGBTQ+ and Spiritual", and co-host of the lifestyle series "Super Easy with Jesse and Alison." He lives and Loves in Los Angeles with his husband Christopher and their family.