My cosmic button is invisible. Actually, the button is imaginary. As strange as it may seem for a grown man to play make-believe this fun and possibly ridiculous practice has saved my butt on MANY occasions.
I was always one to comment quickly on whatever was in front of me. I'd share my opinions without considering the ramifications which often led to backtracking and apologizing.
As I learned about the power of my thinking and the words I used, in addition to my unsolicited opinions, I started to notice how much I complained. I got so accustomed to being disapointed that I'd search for things to upset me. This had to change.
I decided to practice pausing before I spoke. If what I was about to say felt loving and productive I'd let it out. If I was going to complain or criticize I would find a positive spin or stay silent. Making this change was more challenging than I anticipated; a lifelong habit takes time to adjust.
This is when I created my cosmic pause button. Adding a physical element helped me better integrate the "pausing practice" into my daily routine. I decided it would be placed on my left shoulder. If I found myself criticizing or complaining, I'd gently press my left shoulder and pause. I was like a human DVD player. I'm sure it looked odd to others but I didn't care, I was completely dedicated to my healing and was ready to have a new experience in life. If I didn't change my thinking I knew this wouldn't be possible.
I eventually became so good at pausing that I disconnected the button. I was grateful for the practice because it supported me in making a loving and transformational change but I no longer needed the extra nudge.
As silly as it seems, this practice really helped me deepen my commitment to healing. I stopped caring about what other people thought and did what I needed to do to support myself. It also reminded me that wisdom can live in the simplest of practices when we're open to receiving the good it has to offer.
Jesse Brune-Horan is a Spiritual teacher and happy living expert. He's the co-founder & Spiritual director of Inspire Spiritual Community, a non-profit organization supporting the LGBTQ+ community. He lives and loves in Los Angeles with his husband Christopher and their family.